Life Isn’t So Complicated That We Have To Get It Wrong


There is something about children and the sound of laughter that fills me with a sense of delight. Last night William and Jake wanted to watch the movie “Home Alone”. Had they seen it before? “Yes”. Did the want to see it again? “Obviously”. Personally, it was was beyond my understanding.

Yet, the sound of their laughter and the sense of enjoyment they were experiencing put a smile on my face. I had the passing thought that people need to laugh more. Isn’t it true that laughter and anger cannot co-exist?

I am too frequently aware that folks look for reasons to disagree. It is almost as though we thrive on conflict rather than unity and a sense of wellbeing. Honestly, life doesn’t have to be as difficult as some folks opt to make it. I guess at some level, it gets back to a sense of trust. If you trust that folks have your best interest at heart, it is easier to live with the sense of wellness. When you look for the negative hidden message in everything expressed in both verbal and written communication, it always emerges into a sense of discontent.

Yes, observing the body language and hearing the sound of laughter of two boys watching “Home Alone” for the umpteenth time gave me a sense of serenity. I like it when others are enjoying life. Laughter and anger, laughter and conflict, laughter and a scorn cannot co-exist. We need more laughter in our world. People need to lighten up.

Life isn’t so complicated that we have to get it wrong. I’m of the opinion that when you stop to think about it, there is much wisdom in Robert Fulghum’s book: “All I Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten.”  I like the way he expresses it: “I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge. That myth is more potent than history. That dreams are more powerful than facts. That hope always triumphs over experience. That laughter is the only cure for grief. And I believe that love is stronger than death.”

The principals he shares are sound:

“1. Share everything.

  1. Play fair.
  2. Don’t hit people.
  3. Put thngs back where you found them.
  5. Don’t take things that aren’t yours.
  6. Say you’re SORRY when you HURT somebody.
  7. Wash your hands before you eat.
  8. Flush.
  9. Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.
  10. Live a balanced life – learn some and drink some and draw some and paint some and sing and dance and play and work everyday some.
  11. Take a nap every afternoon.
  12. When you go out into the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands, and stick together.
  13. Be aware of wonder. Remember the little seed in the Stryrofoam cup: The roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that.
  14. Goldfish and hamster and white mice and even the little seed in the Styrofoam cup – they all die. So do we.
  15. And then remember the Dick-and-Jane books and the first word you learned – the biggest word of all – LOOK.”

Perhaps William and Jake’s propensity for watching the same movie over and over is something they learned from their dad. When Craig was in high school, he watched the television mini-series “Lonesome Dove” over and over until he memorized every line.

Half a lifetime later, he still relies on quotes from Lonesome Dove to express himself:

“It ain’t dying I’m talking about, it’s living. I doubt it matters where you die, but it matters where you live.” ~spoken by Augustus McCrae”

“Yesterday’s gone on down the river and you can’t get it back.”

“I’m glad I’ve been wrong enough to keep in practice. . . You can’t avoid it, you’ve got to learn to handle it. If you only come face to face with your own mistakes once or twice in your life it’s bound to be extra painful. I face mine every day–that way they ain’t usually much worse than a dry shave.”

Call saw that everyone was looking at him, the hands and cowboys and townspeople alike. The anger had drained out of him, leaving him feeling tired. He didn’t remember the fight, particularly, but people were looking at him as if they were stunned. He felt he should make some explanation, though it seemed to him a simple situation. ‘I hate a man that talks rude,’ he said. ‘I won’t tolerate it.’

‘I’m sure partial to the evening,’ Augustus said. ‘The evening and the morning. If we just didn’t have to have the rest of the dern day I’d be a lot happier.’

“It’s a fine world, though rich in hardships at times.”

And of course, how or why would I argue with, “The older the violin, the sweeter the music.’”

All My Best!



One thought on “Life Isn’t So Complicated That We Have To Get It Wrong”

  1. Don,

    This is one of my favorites, so true. I love the “What I learned in Kindergarten…”

    Have a beautiful day, my friend.


    Sent from my iPad



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