Here’s Johnny

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Last night Andrea and Kevin wanted to orchestrate a belated birthday dinner for the General. Of course, as part of the entourage, I was also invited. In all truthfulness, I can say it proved to be an exceptional evening.

 

For starters, Andrea and Kevin chose a restaurant where the General and I have never been. Truthfully speaking, I am mostly a stranger to the kind of fine dining that includes something more than a white tablecloth and dinnerware. I am not accustomed to having a myriad of choices for the first course, second course, main course and the grand finale (aka – desert).

 

It was a touching moment when Andrea looked at the menu and said to her mom, “Why don’t we take this and this and this for starters?” She offered several suggestions to include for the second course and pretty much left the third course for our own choosing.

 

Seriously, for the most part, I had looked at the menu and had no idea what was being served. When it comes to culinary choices that include something outside my regular fare or frame of reference, my first reaction is to look for something else on the menu that seems more familiar. I kind of discount the possibility that I will like it if I haven’t already tried it.

 

Andrea has a culinary charm about her where she can get by with promoting a menu selection for consideration. She does a good job of convincing you that you have a treat in store. I had a flashback to the General coaxing Andrea throughout her childhood to try different foods.

 

It was both interesting to observe and experience the role reversal-taking place before my eyes. Andrea was taking on the role of teacher and mentor. Though she’d never suggest that we were her inept students, we were on unfamiliar territory. She was pretty convincing that we would enjoy the taste. Never once did she use the line: “It is good for you”.

 

The waiter was a young man named Johnny. Actually, when he first came to our table, I missed his providing us his name. At least, I didn’t recall his name when he came back around. Consequently, when he came back around I said: “Help me with my memory. I don’t remember your name.” He smiled and said: “It is Johnny. Just like Johnny Cash, except that I don’t have any cash. Okay, so now I had a frame of reference. I would remember his name.

 

As our two-hour-plus dinner took place, I watched Johnny interacting with a host of other folks dining in the restaurant. He was attentive, personable, and had a genuine gregarious nature about him that added to the ambience of the evening.

 

He mentioned early in waiting on our table that he had just returned to work. He had been on vacation. I asked about his vacation and he provided a thumb-nailed sketch. He had gone to Arizona. While he was there, he attended his brother’s wedding. He added: “I also had a great time visiting with my mom. I sprung her from the hospital for a while. She has just finished chemo and radiation treatments”. He mentioned that in four months she has aged about fifteen years.

 

Immediately, I had the thought associated to the complexity of his family’s circumstances. His mother’s health status had to weigh heavily on the family as they rallied around and celebrated a family wedding. I’m sure there were lots of emotions surrounding the celebration.

 

I mentioned that I was sorry he was dealing with that kind of stress. He said, “It comes with life”. Who could argue with that? He went on to say: “It is interesting, but my mother has developed the most magnificent sense of humor. She had never been so funny. I guess she figures, ‘What do I have to lose’?”   He added: “I really enjoyed the time with her. In addition, my brother’s wedding provided an opportunity for me to visit with a lot of old friends I’ve not seen in awhile. It was really nice. I enjoyed my time at home, but it is also good to be back at work.”

 

Through the course of the evening, bits and pieces about his life surfaced in conversation. He mentioned George Straight’s song: “Ocean Front Property In Arizona”. He said he had recorded the song and given it to several friends. His friends had responded with positive reviews.

 

I asked: “So did you come to Austin to get in the music business?” He said he had graduated from high school at the age of seventeen and was ready to advance his career. He had started skateboarding at the age of four and thought he could make it as a professional skateboarder. California was calling his name. He had to go and give that career track a chance”.

 

I doubt that is just the kind of thing every parent wants to hear from his or her seventeen-year-old son? Actually, he told his dad he was going to request court emancipation. The dad countered that he would allow him to go, but that he wasn’t going to be emancipated. The dad wanted to keep him on as an income tax deduction. Did I mention that his dad is a CPA and his mother is an art professor?

 

He had support from his family as he pursued his dreams. In the course of the two hours we shared, he shared several more tidbits about his life. He got a degree in nursing and things began to fall apart with his girlfriend at exactly the same time that he was beginning to see a line of white picket fences.

 

I had the thought: “What a clever way to express where he was in his human pilgrimage.” Romance didn’t work out in California and he made his way to Austin. His story associated to getting into the restaurant business really caught me by surprise. He said, “It was all about the Balloon Animals”. “The what”, I asked?” He said when he was still in high school a friend had showed him a stash of cash in his wallet. He said: “He had twenties and hundred dollar bills.” His friend explained: “I’ve been working at a restaurant making animals out of balloons for children.” He said, “The parents love it and they pay me. Some pay me very well”.

 

“You’ve got to show me how to do that,” was his response to his friend. In short order, he received permission to do the same thing in another restaurant. He said, “I guess it was my gregarious nature, but folks really liked me. When the restaurant decided to stop allowing me to do that, they said I was too valuable to loose. They employed me as a part-time server while I was in high school”.

 

When asked about his passion going forward he said: “I am a writer. I was made to write. I can’t stop writing. I haven’t gotten anything published yet, but I will. I write. I can’t stop writing”.

 

Something tells me, he’s got the stuff to reach his dreams. I liked his line: “I was beginning to envision a line of white picket fences”. What an incredible way to say much in a very different way of expressing it!

 

Johnny gave me permission to share his story and reluctantly provided the same regarding his picture. It would serve you well to find him. He is an exceptionally knowledgeable server who works for an incredible restaurant. You’ll enjoy a fantastic meal and an exceptional waiter.

 

All My Best!

Don

What Do I Know About Profit Margins?

I recently visited with a family member who mentioned in passing that her husband continues to work long hours and takes pride in his ability to do top quality woodwork. When it comes to working with wood, his skillset puts him in an artisan category. He can either start from scratch or his restoration skillset is such that he make antiques better than new.

I couldn’t believe the words that come out of her mouth. She said: “He works too much for a man his age. He is exhausted by the end of the day.” Since her husband and I share the same birthdate, I was shocked! Of course, I haven’t quite yet discovered my skill set, but this guy can do almost anything related to home repair and get accolades for his abilities.

The only downside from her perspective is that her husband shies away from most of the home remodeling projects that she has on her list of things that need to be done. She also thinks that he doesn’t charge enough for his work.

That led me to say that the profit margin is important. That is really knee-slapping funny coming from me! What do I know about profit margins? I’ve spent most of my years working for non-profit corporations.

If the lady’s husband charged what he was really worth, his price would be out of reach for many. I’ve heard it said that, “You get what you pay for?” That isn’t always true. Normally, you don’t get it if you don’t pay for it, but paying for it is not guarantee related to quality.

I have a friend who contracted with a builder to enlarge the blueprint of his property. The guys lack of skill and the corners he turned proved to be a nightmare for my friend and his wife.

In the final analysis, the profit index isn’t always most important. The lady shared with me that she has a dear friend that has rental property. I had the thought: “What a remarkable situation in which to find oneself in today’s market.” She said of her friend something closely akin to: “Her business acumen isn’t always focused on the bottom line. More often than not, she makes rental decisions based on her heart rather than actual market value.”

In other words, her friend makes decisions in the best interests of folks needing a home. It is refreshing to know there are mission-minded folks who balance compassion with the bottom line and are willing to cut folks a break and help when she can.

All My BEST!
Don

Old Dogs and Children and Watermelon Wine

Sometimes coloring outside the lines is hard for me. The General and I had plans to attend a wedding on Sunday afternoon about an hour from where our son and his family live.  Our plan was to rush from church and hope to make it to the wedding on time.  We the would  drive back home. It was a crazy plan.

Actually that was my plan. The General’s plan was for us to spend the night in Cat Spring and visit our son and his family.  What she didn’t know is that I had a routine doctor’s appointment scheduled for this morning. It has been on my calendar for six months.

It was out of character for me, but I suggested around noon on Saturday that we call Craig and ask if it was convenient for us to come? We could take them to dinner on Saturday night.  As it turned out, his kids were all home and he thought it was a good plan.

At the time, I hadn’t given a lot of thought to yesterday being Mother’s Day.  As it turned out, being surrounded by grandchildren was rejuvenating for the General.  Okay, so I’m not purposely playing it cool. It was good for me as well.

The General is in her element when we are with family.  I’m not suggesting that she tires of my company, but as grandkids get older, the likelihood of them being available becomes more of a challenge. What not take advantage of every opportunity?

Okay, so we felt a little guilty about missing church in Henly. Being present on Sunday has been a priority for us for decades.  We miss out on something good when we aren’t present.  So, it was a trade-off for us.  It actually was a good choice.

Strange the things that pop into my head, but I thought about Tom T. Hall and his song: “Old Dogs and Children and Watermelon Wine.  Do you remember the lyrics? 

“How old do you think I am?” he said

I said, “Well I don’t know.”

He said, “I turned 65 about 11 months ago”

I was sittin’ in Miami pourin blended whiskey down

When this old gray Black gentlemen was clean’ up the lounge

There wasn’t anyone around ‘cept this old man and me

The guy who ran the bar was watchin’ “Ironsides” on TV

Uninvited, he sat down and opened up his mind

On old dogs and children, and watermelon wine

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“Ever had a drink of watermelon wine?” he asked

He told me all about it, though I didn’t answer back

“Ain’t but three things in this world that worth a solitary dime

But old dogs and children, and watermelon wine”

He said: “Women think about they-selves, when menfolk aint’ around

And friends are hard to find when they discover that you’re down”

He said, “I tried it all when I was pretty young and in my natural prime

Now it’s old dogs and children, and watermelon wine.

“Old dogs care about you when you make mistakes

God bless little children while they’re still too young to hate

When he moved away, I found my pen and copied down that line

‘Bout old dogs and children and watermelon wine

I had to catch a plane up to Atlanta that next day

As I left my room, I saw him pickin’ up my change

That night I dreamed in peaceful sleep of shady summertime

Of old dogs and children and watermelon wine.

With the General, she’s got two of the three covered. She love old dogs and children. She doesn’t like watermelon and she doesn’t drink wine.  Some of you are thinking, give her some time. I have the wherewithal to drive anyone to drink.

The respite from our routine, was good for the two of us. Did I mention that Craig and Becky have four rescue dogs, three children and one foreign-exchange student. Sharing time with them was good for us.

All My Best!

Don

Playful, Fun & Engaging

My mother has been on the other side of eternity for the past 13 1/2   years. As I write that, I question the authenticity of what I’m saying. That  seems like a very long time ago. How can that be possible?

Out of curiosity, I did a Google search to substantiate the date of her death.  Mother was born on December 6, 1925 and went to be with the Lord on December 4, 2010. We opted for her “celebration of life service” on her birthday.  

Just yesterday, as I was thinking about my mother, the word playful came to mind. My mother enjoyed life. She had a sparkle in her eyes and a very playful personality. She could easily interact with both adults and children. There was something about the way she presented herself that she could light up a room by simply being present.

Mother was always conversational and engaging when our friends came over to play. She also frequently had homemade snacks for us to share with friends. During our elementary school years, she took on the responsibility for our cub scout troop leader.  

Mother was also active in the PTA.  When volunteers were needed, she never hesitated to step up to the plate. No one could have been more supportive of us. 

Mother ensured that our childhood was filled with trips to the library, periodic movies for children, seasonal swimming lessons, frequent trips to the skating rink and weekly participation in a multiple of actives at church. We stayed busy.

Perhaps more importantly, she role modeled for us the importance and value of extended family. Mother was one of six children and all of the siblings lived with devotion to their parents and love and support for one another. 

I guess that one of the reasons that I push back on the thought that my mother has been gone for the past 13 1/2 years is that she continues to be so much apart of my life that she is still present. The same is also true of my dad. Both made investments in our lives that continue to reap benefits.

I have a number of friends that lived a very different kind of childhood. Some detest the thought that Mother’s Day should be recognized annually. They live with a sense of estrangement from their family of origin. That, too, has to be a disappointment even though they fail to express it.

I will spend this day counting my blessings and grateful that my mother continues to have a place of importance in my life.

All The Best!

Don

I Think I Can – I Think I Can

The Little Engine That Could is a classic tale of a little engine that, despite her size, triumphantly pulls a train full of wonderful things to the children waiting on the other side of a mountain.

When he was a very little boy, if I read the book to Craig once, I read it to him a hundred times. He was always fascinated with The Little Engine That Could. For that matter, I vaguely remember the book from my childhood.

As you no doubt recall, a stranded train is unable to find an engine willing to take it on over a difficult terrain to its destination. Only the little engine is willing to try and, while repeating the mantra “I think I can, I think I can, overcomes a seemingly impossible task. On the down grade after completing what seemed an impossible task, the train congratulates itself by saying “I thought I could, I thought I could.

Perhaps it was with that same principle in mind, I successfully completed weeks of physical therapy to restore the ability associated with mobility issues regarding my right foot. One of the exercises I hated was to spell the alphabet using my foot. By now, I’ve gotten it down to a fine art.

That exercise, along with the sound of Velcro securing or releasing my orthopedic boot, are two things I don’t mind parting with for the next forever. Been there/Done that is my seasoned response.

How often do we give up on accomplishing a task because we cease to believe “I think I can, I think I can? Sometimes our endeavors set us up for failure. In the years that I’ve been flying to Washington, D.C., I’ve only flown into Dulles Airport one time.  Getting from Dulles to D.C. was a challenge.  Reportedly, you can now make the commute by train.

The one time I flew into and out of Dulles, I remember entering the airport and seeing several rows of escalators going up and several going down. As I was headed up, out of the periphery of my vision I noticed a woman attempting to go up on an escalator going down. Talk about two steps forward – two steps back. To add to the difficulty, she was pulling luggage behind her.

It was like watching someone run on a treadmill. She was moving fast, but there wasn’t much forward motion.  Eventually a person coming down the escalator redirected the woman to the escalators going up.  I didn’t see her facial expression, but she had to be grateful to discover an easier way to get to the second floor.

I remember that the incident reminded me of my mother. Mother never attempted to go up an escalator going down, but she was always afraid to step onto the escalator. There was something about the first step on the moving stairs that created fear for her.  Consequently, we took her by the arm and told her when to step. Even then it was a challenge for her.

I suspect that my grandsons have the memory of “The Little Engine That Could” in their backgrounds. I think both have overdone it in their quest for lifting weights, but who am I to say?  Maybe I gave up way too early.

All My Best!

Don

We Had Hail

We were on dog duty last night. My daughter and son-in-law are out of town. We had just pulled up to the gate in front of their house when I told the General that the dark sky looked threatening. I got out of the truck to open the gate. Out of nowhere, intermittent drops of rain and hail began to fall. By the time I had pulled through the open gate and gotten back in my truck, it became apparent that we’d do well to get inside the house quickly.

A huge hail stone hit the windshield of my truck and from the sound, I thought for sure the window would be shattered. Fortunately, it was not. We managed to get inside the house without getting hit in the head by hail, but it was a very close call. Seconds later, the deluge of rain and hail was a force of nature putting everything in its path at risk.

The shrill sound of a weather alert warning went off on my phone. The message was ominous. Outside was not a place for man or animals – Seek cover. In addition to heavy rain and large hail, the threat of a tornado also existed.

The experience triggered a memory from long ago. Our family had gone to a drive-in movie. As I recall, we were in a 1953 Chevrolet. That would have put me between the first and third grade. At any rate, out of nowhere we found ourselves in the middle of a storm and we headed to the safety of home long before the movie was over. I don’t recall that there was any hail damage to the car, but we got home to discover that hail had broken out one of our windows.

From a childhood perspective, I don’t remember feeling unsafe. I guess dad orchestrated the kind of command that we had nothing to worry about. During the drive from the gate to the house yesterday, there was a surge in my anxiety level. Hail stones the size we experienced was a definite threat.

My daughter’s home has lots of windows. Along with the dogs, we stayed in an interior room just to be on the safe side. The sound of hail hitting the metal roof was a little concerning, but we weathered the storm. Fortunately, no windows were broken.

Of course, my tough Ford truck didn’t fare well from the storm. Surprisingly, I decided not to let it make me crazy. Historically, I’ve never driven a vehicle with a door-ding without getting it quickly repaired. The same will be true for my truck. Actually, I probably won’t get it done quickly due to supply and demand.

All My Best!

Don

We Don’t Yet See Things Clearly

Eugene Peterson is an incredibly gifted communicator. His scripting of the love chapter of the bible is figuratively a home run, so to speak. He begins the 13th Chapter of 1 Corinthians this way: “If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don’t love, I’m nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate.”

My dad seemingly was of the mindset that you can resolve a lot of difficulties with a roll of duct tape and a can of WD-40. Duct tape can hold things together rather than to allow them to fall apart. And of course, WD-40 takes away the irritating sound of the creaking of a rusty gate.

I particularly like the way Peterson scripts verses 12-13: “We don’t yet see things clearly. We’re squinting in a fog, peering through a mist. But it won’t be long before the weather clears and the sun shines bright! We’ll see it all then, see it all as clearly as God sees us, knowing him directly just as he knows us!

But for right now, until that completeness, we have three things to do to lead us toward that consummation: Trust steadily in God, hope unswervingly, love extravagantly. And the best of the three is love.”

There is something about a heavy fog that obscures the ability to see clearly. The past several mornings, it has been foggy in my neighborhood. As the sun rises in the east, I attempt to inventory the weather by simply looking outside.

I took the picture I posted with this blog one day last week. The fog served as a filter to minimize the view from the back deck of my home. On another morning, I made my way through the fog to the local grocery store and upon returning home, had difficulty locating where to turn left off the highway into my neighborhood.

There is a cellphone tower near the entrance to my neighborhood. Because of the fog, I could not see the tower at all. I almost missed the turn. It felt eerie.

Sometime our self-assessment of how well we’re doing at trusting steadily in God, hoping unswervingly, and loving extravagantly reflects something other than reality. I suspect that we often give ourselves more credit than we have coming.

I don’t remember the name of this poem written by Edgar A. Guest, but I think it offers direction in evaluating the aforementioned characteristics:

I watched them tearing a building down,
A gang of men in a busy town.
With a ho-heave-ho and lusty yell,
They swung a beam and a sidewall fell.

I asked the foreman, “Are these men skilled,
The men you’d hire if you had to build?”
He gave me a laugh and said, “No indeed!
Just common labor is all I need.

I can easily wreck in a day or two
What builders have taken a year to do.”
And I thought to myself as I went my way,
Which of these two roles have I tried to play?

Am I a builder who works with care,
Measuring life by the rule and square?
Am I shaping my deeds by a well-made plan,
Patiently doing the best I can?

Or am I a wrecker who walks the town,
Content with the labor of tearing down?

All My Best! Don

Stories From Long Ago

A friend from college that now lives in Hilton Head Island, South Carolina, posted a photograph on Facebook of the island. It was taken by a friend that is an airline pilot. The view from the air is spectacular.  In his subsequent comments, my friend made some reference to “an old woman that lived in a shoe.”

That reference put a smile on my face. My mother often quoted the poem found in the Mother Goose Story book many times:

There was an old woman who lived in a shoe.

She had so many children, she didn’t know what to do.

She gave them some broth without any bread;

And whipped them all soundly and put them to bed.

I connected the dots of the nursery rhyme, and it always made my smile. Other stories or nursery rhymes shared with me appeared to make sense. However, from the vantage point of adulthood, the stories took on an entirely different meaning.

Take for example, the story of Humpty Dumpty.  Most of my generation can probably quote the nursery rhyme flawlessly:

“Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall

Humpty Dumpty had a great fall

All the kings horses and all the kings men

Couldn’t put Humpty Dumpty back together again.

In the make-believe world of children – Humpty Dumpy resembled an egg. Long story short: the egg was fragile and once broken, it was forever broken. 

In adulthood, I read that Humpty Dumpty was the name of a large cannon that sat on top of a wall protecting St. Mary’s Church in England.  The wall on which the cannon was mounted was hit by cannon fire and the wall crumbled leaving the community unprotected.

The website of the Colchester tourist board attributed the origin of the rhyme to a cannon recorded as used from the church of St Mary-at-the Wall by Royalist defenders in the siege of 1648. 

So is there more to the story of Humpty Dumpty than a cracked egg that couldn’t be repaired.  From the vantage point of childhood, I didn’t need to know more. I probably still don’t.

All My Best!

Don

Stress Doesn’t Burn Calories

Twenty-five years ago, we hired a new comptroller where I worked.  I was not actually involved in the selection process, but because I was part of the management team, I did get to participate in a meet and greet question and answer session when he came back for a second interview. Based on the introductory comments concerning the applicant that were made by the hiring manager to those of us who had not met him, the applicant appeared very capable and highly qualified.

I only had two questions:

  1.  Is the glass half empty or is the glass half full?
  2. How important is it to you in your work setting to have a sense of humor?

Those may be strange questions for a job interview, but the answers told me all I needed to know related to relationship issues and my perception of what matters most in a work environment. I liked his responses to both questions and had no reservations related to providing him a vote of confidence.

Have you ever stopped to do an inventory of the numbers of people you meet on a regular basis that consistently see the glass as half empty?  Perhaps, for any number of reasons, it is not a cultural norm in our country to live with a thankful heart. God gives us a freedom of choice and there are too few who choose to embrace life with a sense of gratitude.

It is difficult to be thankful if you look around and find yourself wanting more.  John D. Rockefeller once was asked, “How much does it take to satisfy a man?”  With rare wisdom he answered, “A little bit more than he has.”  If the passion in our life is to only own the land that touches ours, we’ll never be content with what we have.

We are constantly exposed by the advertising media to the concepts of bigger, better, new, improved, faster, sleeker…Doesn’t the list just go on and on?  Even concepts like “energy efficient” leave us dissatisfied with those elements in our home or driveways that don’t fall into that category.

The “glass is half-empty syndrome” never lacks for a venue to express dissatisfaction. Many people complain about every stress factor they experience in life. I once saw a sign in that made me smile. It read: “If stress burned calories, I’d be a size 5.”  I thought the sign was clever.

Seriously, at times aren’t we tempted to complain about the weather, traffic, the economy, the stock market, big government, the court system, family members, our health, our work, out lack of time to play, the pastor’s sermon, the tax rate and appraised value of our homes along with any everyday occurrence that intersects our lives leaving us wanting more or something different.

That serves as a basic contrast to the wisdom of the Psalmist: “Make a joyful noise to the Lord, all the earth.  Serve the Lord with gladness! Come into his presence with singing!  Know the Lord, he is God!  It is he who made us, and we are his; we are his people, and the sheep of his pasture. Enter his gates with thanksgiving, and his courts with praise! Give thanks to him; bless his name! For the Lord is good; his steadfast love endures forever, and his faithfulness to all generations. [Psalm 100]

All My Best!

Don   

In Honor Of Those Who Have Entered Frightened And Left In Peace

Yesterday, I talked by telephone with a long-term friend that I’ve known for many years.  My friend lives in Colorado and works in the high-tech industry. Following the crash of my computer twenty something years ago, he was able to recover six-years of data that I feared was forever gone.

Had my friend not been able to resurrect the files, many of my memories would have been forever forgotten.  Truth be told, their recovered value was mostly limited to my own enjoyment, but I spent hours refreshing my memory once the files were recovered and mailed back to me on two discs.

One of the files was labeled, “Random Thoughts.”  Some of you are thinking that most of my thoughts are random and far too often are not closely linked together.  At any rate, the file contains references to common place, true life experiences and my subsequent reflections related to that experience or event.

It was from that file that much of my book “More Than Enough” came to fruition. Without the resourcefulness of my friend, the stories would have been forever buried in the resources of my head.

From the random thoughts file, I reclaimed this reflection from the Generals post-surgery hospital stay at St. David’s Hospital. At the time, the chapel at St. David’s hospital had a wall of beautiful stained-glass windows.  According to a plaque hanging next to the windows, the windows were made possible through the gifts of six benefactors.

Five of the benefactors either donated resources in memory of someone or in honor of someone named. Sometimes there was a combination of the two; a gift honoring someone, and also in memory of another. The windows added ambience to the atmosphere of the small chapel area.

I wish I had of had the presence of mind to take pictures of the windows, but I did not. The picture I included for this blog is a stained-glass window in our church. It was provided in honor of the General and me years ago.

During my initial brief visit to the chapel at St. David’s, I couldn’t help but think that the benefactors who made the windows possible certainly paid a nice tribute to their loved ones.  At the same time, they helped create an environment of serenity, peace and expectation as visitors entered the small, dedicated area to pray and worship.

In looking over the plaque naming those who had graciously made the stained-glass windows possible, I was intrigued by the designation of the sixth benefactor.  It stated simply: “In honor of those who have entered frightened and left in peace.”

On a subsequent visit to that small, serene chapel setting where I went for a few moments of quiet, meditation and prayer, I once again thought about the tribute to “those who have entered frightened and left in peace.”  It then occurred to me that the tribute may have absolutely no relationship to the flow of patients and visitors through St. David’s Hospital.

The tribute may more succinctly relate to a much smaller number.  It may specifically relate to those who entered the small chapel area seeking the solace of God.  With that definition in mind, the tribute became even more poignant: “In honor of those who have entered frightened and left in peace.”

During my first visit to the hospital chapel area, I noticed an open book of what appeared to be blank pages. The pages were entitled Memorial Book. With only a passing thought, I noticed the book and wondered if anyone ever paused long enough to chronicle their reflections.

As I subsequently noticed the book a second time on a subsequent visit, I saw that someone had left handwritten comments. Being curious, while at the same time wanting to respect privacy, I debated the ethics of reading what had been written.  Ultimately, curiosity won out as I convinced myself that anything left handwritten in an open book was for public viewing.

The first set of handwritten notes chronicled a prayer of thanksgiving. It stated something closely akin to: “Thank you Lord for your loving care, for seeing me through surgery and for sparing my life.  Thank you for granting me favor and giving me eternal life through your Son Jesus Christ. For it is in Him that I find ultimate healing.”

I read just enough to whet my appetite. Turning back a page, the writer expressed a desperate plea for God’s intervention and grace. The expressed need was not medical, but emotional and relational.  It was something to the effect: “Help me move forward with my life. I now realize that my marriage is over, and in reality, has been for several years.  I struggle with fears of loneliness and abandonment, but I can’t keep going as I have been.  I am all alone apart from you.  Help me to be trusting. Strengthen our relationship.”

In a quick overview of six or seven written prayers, I was startled to discover that the theme was not primarily an expression of medical needs. More often, the requested healing solicited by those expressing their need related to relationships, not health.

It occurred to me that the Psalms are filled with tangible examples from David’s life where he sought solace from God during difficulty and despair. Without fail, he always emerged from those encounters with a renewed spirit and the resourcefulness to negotiate life. Perhaps the key is simply in the seeking.

All My Best!

Don

The Dwindling Decade of Affluence

My dad lived to the age of 83. Interestingly, one of the defining characteristics of his life occurred early in his life, during his elementary school years. He was only six years old when the stock market in our country crumbled and immediately following, banks couldn’t honor the savings of their investors.

Consequently, Dad “came of age” during the Great Depression.  The imprint from that experience forever colored his perception of the worst possible case scenario.

At the height of the Great Depression in 1933, nearly 25% of the nation’s workforce was unemployed. Wage income for workers lucky enough to have kept their jobs fell 43% between 1929 and 1933. It was the worst economic disaster in American history. Farm prices fell so drastically that many farmers lost their homes and land. Many went hungry.

Dad’s family never went hungry. They either planted and grew what they needed, or they bartered for what they were without.

Dad’s early years were clearly a contrast to the decades of affluence that most of my generation can relate and one in which my dad was never completely comfortable.

One of the dreaded questions Dad often asked during my adolescent years when I was wanting something was: “How much does it cost?”  Dad knew the value of hard work and he knew the value of a dime. Throughout his life, given the choice, Dad would prefer to have the dime rather than what it would buy. Because he knew from early childhood what it was like for his family to be without.

I was surprised by a recent news release from the U.S. Department of Labor.  It read: “On April 23, 2024, a news release from the U.S. Department of Labor stated: BIDEN-HARRIS ADMINISTRATION FINALIZES RULE TO INCREASE COMPENSATION THRESHOLDS FOR OVERTIME ELIGIBILITY, PROVIDING PROTECTIONS  FOR MILLIONS OF WORKERS.

“Effective July 1, 2024, the salary threshold will increase to the equivalent of an annual salary of $43,888 and increase to $58,656 on Jan. 1, 2025… The Biden-Harris administration is following through on our promise to raise the bar for workers who help lay the foundation for our economic prosperity.”

It occurred to me that this publication is misleading.  The federal minimum wage in this country continues to be set at $7.25 an hour. It has not been raised in 15 years.  The one thing guaranteed by such an oversight is debilitating poverty and homelessness.

Every time I walk into the grocery store, I am shocked by the increase in prices. Yesterday, for example, I noticed that Blue Bell Ice Cream has gone up $3.00 a half gallon since a couple of weeks ago. Of course, that is nickel and dime stuff. By the way, I didn’t go home with ice cream.

The median sales price for a home in Dripping Springs is $600,000. Rentals hover somewhere between $2,500 to $3,500 a month. For the record, Blanco is similar.

We may not be in the midst of the Great Depression, but single family dwellings and new cars are now way out of reach for most.

All My Best!

Don